We are flawed by nature. We make mistakes. We do wrong. We hurt others. We are sometimes selfish and self-centered. Some of us are even narcissistic at times. We make fools of ourselves. We say cruel things. We utter unwarranted insults. We are quick to judge. We sometimes take things that are not ours to take. We are sometimes mean. We occasionally hold high (or low) opinions of ourselves that are unwarranted. We make foolish decisions. We show a lack of self-control or discipline.
This list is far from exhaustive.
If we are real, if we are honest with ourselves, if we dare face up to the ugliness that is within us, we crumble. Therefore, many of us make excuses. Many of us have alibis. Many of us look the other way and choose not to take a hard look at ourselves in the mirror. Many of us drown our sensibilities with drugs, alcohol, pseudo-humor, or other distractions.
My suggestion: resolve to turn away from such things. Make new resolutions to go in a different direction. Apologize sincerely to those you have wronged and seek their forgiveness. Cease and desist – permanently – from making those same poor choices.
And then, forgive yourself. You’re only human. You are a work in progress. You can change if you set your mind to change.
And once you forgive yourself, have it in your heart to forgive others. Let it go. . .
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